Need help with the housework? Here's how to get it!
By Sandra Beckwith
Most American couples still use Donna Reed and Harriet Nelson as
their role models when it comes to divvying up household chores. To break
free of those old habits, try these tips:
- Communicate: Ask your partner for help, and be specific with your
request. “Please load the dishwasher after dinner,” is
better than, “Please clean up after dinner,” because everyone
has a different definition of “clean up.”
- Demonstrate: Don’t assume your partner knows how to do a task.
Show, don’t tell.
- Compliment: Find something nice to say about the help you’ve
received. A woman who has changed the oil in the car for the first
time wants her accomplishment to be acknowledged, just as a man who
cleans the bathroom does.
- Reward: Give a reason to clean. Suggest dinner and a movie together
if there are no t-shirts to fold or sheets to change when Saturday
night rolls around.
- Lower your standards: Don’t worry about whether the task gets
done your way or to your standards. What’s important is that
it gets done without you doing it.
Sandra Beckwith speaks
frequently on the lighter side of gender differences and is the author
of WHY CAN’T A MAN BE MORE LIKE A WOMAN? Learn more at www.sandrabeckwith.com.