Accept and appreciate that men parent differently
By Sandra Beckwith
Don’t be frustrated because your husband doesn’t parent
the same way you do - learn why his differences are good for the children.
Here are just some of the differences:
- Fathers use physical contact to excite a child; mothers use it to
comfort and provide security. Dad tickles or wrestles; Mom hugs.
- When playing, fathers direct the activity, acting as a teacher with
the child as an apprentice. Mothers play at the child's level, side-by-side,
allowing the child to be in charge and run the show. Fathers’ play
also encourages children to experiment, learn new skills and push against
- Fathers discipline with inflexible rules; mothers discipline according
to the moment, adjusting to the child’s mood.
- Fathers communicate by teaching. Conversations between fathers and
children are short and occur side-by-side, rather than face-to-face.
Mothers communicate more emotionally, sharing feelings and enjoying
- A mother’s love is unconditional; a father’s is tied
- Mothers worry about a newborn's survival, fathers about the child’s
Your children appreciate and need his different style. Learn to sit
back and enjoy the help.
Sandra Beckwith speaks
frequently on the lighter side of gender differences and is the author
of WHY CAN’T A MAN BE MORE LIKE A WOMAN? Learn more at www.sandrabeckwith.com.